Men from Mars, Women from Venus

Just to clarify before I start...conversations that I post will be a short version of the true conversation...of the many conversations I have during the day because I like to talk...why do I talk so much you ask? No, not because I'm PR and from NJ...smart ass....because Imma from Venus. Kris and I decided to read this book. Mostly because we have trouble understanding each other at times. Anyhow he really brought it up first. I was kinda iffy about this book...well because it is written by a man. So I wasn't so sure that it would be equal to women. I sore it was going to be geared to favoring men. Surprisingly it doesn't. It has actually represented women fairly and honestly...well so far. I'm only up to chapter seven. I'm kinda glad that Kris brought this book up. I appreciate his willingness to learn and make us a better duo. The book has taught me a lot about men so far. Some stuff I knew and other things not. Sometimes the wording the PHD dude uses is funny to me...but I amuse easily. The other day I asked Kris if he had noticed some of the verbal changes in me...he said not really. Which was kinda disappointing in a way because it's hard to apply things you read at times. But it has worked so far...even though he didn't notice...because we haven't had a big misunderstanding since I've been reading. The book gives you some skills in understanding men and their strange ways...and gives you some insight into why women act the way they do. I was like...WOW! YEAH! That's exactly what I mean when I say that or do that. I used to give Kris the so called 'unsolicited advice' which apparently men really hate that...and started to just give him the tools for him to be able to make the decision without him feeling all mothered...of course with the end result benefiting me...LOL. Don't tell him that.

Past conversations would have been like this:

K: 'I have a headache'
Me: 'Why don't you take some Advil?'
K: 'No'

Now the difference is:

K: 'I have a headache'
Me: 'There is some Advil in the cabinet.'
K: 'Yeah I'll take some'

See...and you learn that men don't react to 'would' or 'should'...mostly just direct 'can' or 'do'

Previous

Me: 'Could you take out the garbage?'
K: 'I could.'

Now:

Me: 'Can you please take out the garbage?'
K: 'Okay.'

Don't be stumped or upset over their one word answers. They just don't talk as much as we do. 'Okay'...actually means 'yes, sure I will.' This is the kinda stuff the book explains. And funny enough it works. I could go on with more...but I suggest you get it for yourself if you have issues understanding your man and his ways.

Anyhow...my entire point is that this book has actually been a good thing...Now, we can get married in peace. LOL!